The desire for others commitment to us, is a deep need for certainty in relationships. But this fear of not trusting commitments, even when we desire them. Commitment to any relationship leaves us ambivalent and insecure. We may have become aware of this fear or not during childhood when we first felt alone and vulnerable realizing that we have no certainty about anyone having our back. But it is more than that. It is a destined human challenge we face to prompt our spiritual

Feedings of boredom or being confined and restricted in any way creates an anxious restlessness inside us who bear this unconscious fear. Our restlessness becomes so great that it stirs up a need to disrupt the status quo by deliberately looking for intellectual and emotional novelty. Stimulation and excitement help to distract from a pain we deny or a muteness inside our hearts that feels like stagnation. The harder our human side strives to run away from the feeling of stas