The fear of Conflict

The fear of conflict underlies a need for peace. We are sensitive to any vibes of conflict. We constantly scan the atmosphere for equilibrium. Any indication that there is emotional imbalance between others, urges us to correct this tension. We are mediators and when we cannot help to create peace, we flee and hide. We often want to escape reality when it is too painful to be in the presence of conflict. We are attuned to the feelings of others and often provide space for them to release their troubles onto us. Without consciously wanting to, we do absorb others’ emotions and often struggle with feelings that are not ours. We may even suffer physical symptoms because of taking on others conflict. We are lightning rods for tension and immediately measure the emotional temperature in any room, questioning ourselves, taking responsivity to fix things.

Our need for peace and fear of conflict often have us withdraw or isolate ourselves from time to time. This is necessary for us to reconnect with ourselves without outside emotional influences. Clarity about our own feelings is a basic instinct when our psyche is exposed to so much energetic input.

We sometimes betray ourselves and our own feelings or ideas for the sake of keeping the peace with others. In doing this nobody really gets to know us. We hide our truth for the sake of keeping the status quo. Rocking the boat may mean war.

What this fear teaches us is that we have (whether it is conscious or unconscious) a very deep well of insight into feelings. We know that people are complex and that feelings ebbs and flow. We can look deep into the ocean of emotion and recognize its origin and power.

Embracing this fear as a reminder of our spiritual gift, we can live alongside it and choose to stay in the presence of conflict without running away. The divine portal for us with this fear lies between the shoulder blades. Stretch out your arms like wings and open your chest to breath in life. Accept and love the part of you that feels overwhelmed in the presence of anger, violence and conflict, because this part is the one that grows into the lamp carrier for peace; the part that discovers discernment. Your presence alone is enough to exude peace. You do not have to force it. Your inner work is to sew all the pieces of life experience together into a map of appreciation and acknowledgement. This process is a testimony of your soul’s all-inclusiveness. You embody an attitude of fairness and reflection with your attendance. Your personal fear grows into its strength when you connect with the Divine essence within you. Peacekeeping is no more an effort, because it is a natural part of who you are. You still live alongside your human fear, but it is no longer a trigger for defensive behaviour, because you now know who you are and you are accepting, not fighting yourself.

Blessings,

Jayni Bloch